LOVER

( Our inner Lover has the ability to)   Connect and engage: with own emotions, creativity and
sexuality; with other people at an intimate level; with the wonder and beauty of the world, and with the spiritual dimension beyond and inside self. 

How about we shine light on the shadow some more ? 
Shining Light on the shadow 
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The Deflated Lover:

The Stoic
Your Deflated Lover manifests the following characteristics.
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Fears being alone or abandoned (gets small)
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Has a hard time having fun
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Prefers not to explore emotion
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Has no need or desire to pursue art, beauty, wonder
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Has a hard time connecting with others at a personal or intimate level
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Tends to be unfeeling or to go numb
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Denies the need to connect with the spiritual dimension
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Tends to
be distant or alienated from others
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Is sexually inactive or impotent
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Tends to feel vulnerable, like a lost child
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May create and then hide in a fantasy world
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Is easily shamed.

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The Inflated Lover:
The
Addict
Your Inflated Lover manifests the following characteristics.
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Fears being alone or abandoned (gets big)
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Is prone to addictions (e.g., money, possessions, food, pleasure, work)
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Can be easily flooded emotionally
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Tends to be consumed or overwhelmed by his/her emotions or desires
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Is sexually restless, perhaps unfaithful
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Tends to be “swept away” in relationships
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Falls in love, and out of love easily
, or forces his/her love on others
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Finds himself/herself in stressful, unhealthy, or codependent relationships
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Lives his/her life in emotional extremes
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Lives only in the moment
; seeks the ultimate and continuous “high”.
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Is prone to fanaticism or idolatry
; is easily consumed by causes
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Seems to be always searching, but not knowing what he/she is looking for

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The mature lover is able to experience and grieve loss.

The deflated shadow Lover is the Stoic, numb to his own feelings, especially grief. He/she is ambivalent to ,or detached from any spiritual dimension, and unable or unwilling to connect with others.
 In contrast, the inflated shadow Lover is the Addict, overwhelmed by his feelings, obsessed with the pursuit of pleasure or passion, fanatically for or against the spiritual dimension, and either neurotic or codependent in his relationships.

The Mature Lover
Your Mature Lover manifests the following characteristics.
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Embraces his/her emotions
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Appreciates beauty and wonder for its own sake, without having to understand it or analyze it
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Appreciates music, dance and the arts
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Can feel sensual without feeling ashamed
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Honors and expresses his/her soul
; can celebrate life
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Takes time for self renewal
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Can be alone, quiet, reflective, introspective, contemplative
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Has an aligned, healthy connection with the spiritual dimension
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Is open to new relationships
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Likes to connect at a deep, personal level with other people
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Can “see” into the heart of others with understanding and compassion
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Is open to his/her desires
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Has a healthy appetite for life
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Exudes a healthy sexual self
-
awareness
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Has a healthy awareness of his/her body
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Is spontaneous, playful
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Is nurturing, empathetic, welcoming
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Can grieve
.

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Magick

We Embody wisdom, objectivity, penetrate insight, have excellent communication
skills, and deal with symbols, ritual and mystery. 

We Hold the tension
of desperate, sometimes contradictory information, feelings and relationships, while remaining detached and clear headed. 

We Face,embrace ,  go through, and transform fear into an ally, when
grappling with difficult situations or relationships.

Unaddressed fear causes people to slip into one of the two shadows. 

WE WILL SHINE SOME LIGHT AND REVEAL THE SHADOW!

The deflated shadow, tends to be consumed and confused by the fear, becomes gridlocked in his thinking and
simply doesn’t know what to do. This deflated shadow is characterized as the Dummy. The inflated
shadow is likewise held captive by fear, but shrouds it in a life of pretense, illusion, self righteousness and hidden agendas.
The inflated shadow is also called the Manipulator.
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Your Mature self manifests the following characteristics.
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Is insightful
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Sees quickly to the heart of problems
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Holds and processes many dimensions of information at the same time
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Stays calm and detached during crises
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Is good at assessing options and offering advice
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Is keenly sensitive to the truth. Not easily fooled or manipulated
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Adapts his/her perspective so as to be understood by other people
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Holds
impressions of situations without making quick judgments
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Holds
impressions of people without
judging them or labeling them
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Sees
meaning in symbolism and ritual
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Is thoughtful, reflective, objective, detached
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Deals
comfortably
with abstractions
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Is comfortable exploring
mysteries or paradox
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Faces and goes through his/her fears
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Recognizes cycles and patterns
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Keeps learning
; is open to ideas

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the Deflated shadow manifests the following characteristics.
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Has trouble thinking clearly when under pressure
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Has to have all the data when
making a recommendation
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Fears making a mistake
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Is set in his/her ways; once a view is developed of something, he/she seldom changes
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Views situations and assesses people in black and white
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Is quick to judge
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Has trouble organizing his/her schedule
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Can be confused or misled easily by others
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Tends to think that others are smarter
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Has a disorganized mind.
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The Inflated shadow

The
Manipulator
Your Inflated shadow manifests the following characteristics.
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Likes the idea of manipulating others to get what he/
she wants
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Does not like to disclose information about himself/herself
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Does not want others to know what he/she is thinking
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Likes to control a situation from a distance
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Likes to win by outwitting others
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Does not share the full truth about a situation, an is
sue or a person
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Believes he/she knows what is the best idea in any situation
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Is suspicious of others
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Uses humor to hurt other people
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Uses knowledge as a weapon (“I know something you don’t know.”)


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Divine Action !?!

Project LOVE !!!

We take innovative action. We are Self Disciplined
We are committed to the truth that we know ,we feel , we are one .
We are dedicated we self
to projects, assignments, etc getting the job done.
Dependable with out expectations , We are loyal to the needs of the others.
We exudes courage, persistence and stamina for whatever We are doing. We show up and take creative , innovative action . We are committed 2 transcending above the level of the personal ego reconnecting with our higher self . We redoubles our efforts whenever necessary .

We the higher self in action (The mature self )faces, embraces and goes through His/ Her own emotions without hurting others or self . 

We would like to shine some light and reveal the shadow!

The deflated shadow self , or "Victim ", represses or denies His/ Her anger and avoids confrontation or
aggression. The inflated shadow self or Savage, is consumed by His/ Her anger, which leaks or spews
on
to others, especially Victims. The Victim has flimsy understanding of will power easily trampled by others; the Savage
ignores the sovereignty of others as he/ she pursues his /her own agenda.


WE at project love :

Accept responsibility and get the job done
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are focused and determined
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are not easily diverted
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Know his/her skills and is disciplined in using them
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are a direct, factual communicator
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Honor own personal sovereignty , while not imposing on others .
do i need to explain further ?
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Have a strong sense of loyalty and duty
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are not attached to strings , or material things . Can cut our "losses" and move on without dwelling on the past
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Work through adversity or perceived failures taking challenges head on to accomplishing a goal
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are Here and now oriented
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Put theory into practice
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are Determined, focused, dependable
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we Takes appropriate risks
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Acknowledge and is clean about embracing /expressing our emotions in a healthy way.

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Value physical conditioning and health.


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Sovereign

The Sovereign
Our inner Sovereign charts the course for our life, makes decisions, and both receives blessing
and gives blessings to others. He or she knows higher self and abilities. He/she  draws power from a Source beyond himself and knows he is loved regardless of outer accomplishments or faults.

The deflated shadow Sovereign, or Weakling, feels unloved and inferior to others.the deflated sovereign has forgotten true identity behind that of the ego persona. The deflated shadow has forgotten the true power within and is incapable of setting a direction for his/ her life. He/ she sees himself as unworthy or even worthless,
and becomes captive to the approval of others.
The inflated shadow Sovereign is the Tyrant or
Narcissist, who sees himself as “special,” with
power being either self
-generated or a birthright. Though
manifested differently, both Sovereign shadows are plagued by a low sense of self worth.

The Mature Sovereign
Your Mature Sovereign manifests the following characteristics.
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Has a high sense of self
-
worth
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knows himself/herself and his/her abilities
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Has a sense of his/her place in the world
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Has a sense of vision for his/her life
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Exudes a calm centeredness
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Can entrust responsibility to others
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Can ask for what he/she wants
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Accepts a Higher Power beyond himself/herself
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Motivates, empowers and blesses others
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Is at ease receiving and accepting praise, thanks or blessing from others
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Lives life from a sense of service or stewardship for the whole (beyond himself/herself)
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Has a deep love for his/her “realm”
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Is calm and reassuring to others during crises
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Sees, mirrors and affirms others
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Guides, encourages and nurtures others
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Can embrace what is healthy and good, and let go of what must die
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Experiences joy


information re-edited  shared from 


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Adyashanti - Being Alone

Chapter 7 rough draft

Chapter 7 rough draft

Invitations of the project of  love

 *Love and have understanding of those who do not see eye to eye. Jesus said love thy enemy. Or at least, have compassion for them. This may be challenging for you however it is very rewarding

  for our times. This does not mean indulging falsehood or corruption. It means moving from us/them thinking to we consciousness, from separation to cooperation, recognizing that we human beings are ultimately far more alike than we are different.

  This is challenging in situations with people whose views are radically opposed to

  yours. Be hard on the issues at hand , and soft on the people dealing with the issues.

*Transmute your anger/fear/despair to compassion/love and purpose.

  This is a challenge for the change movement at hand , in our streets and reflected in media. Take your emotions and transmute all the

  anger/outrage of social injustice to  create the change you are looking for . Have courage and know that you are the hero ! .

  Shift from fighting the evil , ignorance , and apathy in the world to working for love with patience , compassion and understanding .

  The long-term results are very different, even if the activities appear

  identical. Action follows Being. You can not create a positive

  future by filling your mind with anger and despair. Remember to breathe consciously being aware of the in breathe , the still of the breathe and the exhale of the breath in each moment .

     Victory comes from the action of the being in each moment , not the future results. Adapt and Remain flexible in the face of changes.   Maintaining Integrity will be your protection. If your work has integrity, this will protect you from negative energy and circumstances.

  You can often avoid negative energy  with conscious practice . Embrace it and let it go . Know that you are more powerful than the thoughts and emotions  that arise within you .

What you focus on , you become. You become that which you most deeply focus your attention upon.

 You reap what you sow, so choose your actions carefully. If you engage in battles or fight, you are really fighting yourself

If you project love as you are love , you will receive more love to share .

Have Non-attachment to outcome. This might be difficult to put into practice at first, but do not attach yourself to the results of your work,  let go of attachment that everything intended or planned is going to work out exactly as we want it to .

Hold a clear intention, and let go of the outcome. Recognize that a larger wisdom is operating.

*Remember not to criticize

your adversaries. It creates more tension , hostility and aggressive behavior resulting in more the same behavior .. People respond to aggressive behavior with more aggressive behavior creating a rigid polarization and more seperation .  Continue to remain open to information you are receiving and do your best to see it from another angle or from another perspective.     Constantly challenge your own views.

 *Continue to remember  You are unique. Find and fulfill your true calling. It is better to tread your own

  path, however humbly, than that of another, however successfully. Know thyself , be thyself and share thyself , fully in each moment . The world needs more , not less of you .

  *The project of love is for the world, not for you. by projecting love and reminding others of their potential , beauty and power you are working for

  others. The full harvest of your work may not take place in your lifetime, however know your

  efforts now are creating a better life for future generations. Let that fulfillment be your reward .

  Have gratitude  for yourself for answering the call to do this work with  compassion, authenticity, valor.   Selfless service is a myth. By serving others, we serve our higher selves. It is in giving that we receive. I am we and we are you .

  We are sustained by those we serve.

*What you focus on , you become. You become that which you most deeply focus your attention upon.

 You reap what you sow, so choose your actions carefully. If you engage in battles or fight, you fight are really fighting yourself

If you project love as you are love , you will receive more love to share .

 *I invite you not to insulate yourself from the pain of the world . Closing up our hearts and mind yourself  from life  and closing off due to pain and past truamatic experiences prevents transformation for the individual and the collective !

I  invite you to Let your heart break open, and learn to move in the world with a open heart.

If something happens and we feel pain let us embrace it with tender loving care .

The  pain we feel is a  medicine which the wounded within can help  heals ourselves. When we open ourselves to the pain of the world, we become the medicine that heals the world.. A broken heart becomes an open heart,

 and genuine transformation begins.

 *Have courage of not knowing how everything is going to turn out. Let go of needing to figure it all out. Trust yourself no matter what the appearances everything is happening for a reason .

 There are 'divine' forces at work that we can trust completely without knowing their precise workings or agendas.

*Begin in silence. Just be aware  and listen. If you genuinely ask inwardly and listen for guidance,

 following  the wisdom  carefully, you will be free flowing and will find more magic in everyday life that is always happening

 *Remember that Love creates the form. Not the other way around. .Avoid the trap by knowing

any pessimism concerning our living that is not balance with an optimism concerning

 divine nature one will overlook the cure of grace. (MLK)   Our heart's love infuses our work and we will not fail and what we envision will surpass anything we have ever expected.

Chapter 6 rough draft

I started a project in 2003 in Portland, Oregon . It all began with a few  individuals interested  in collaborating and co creating together as 1 love, 1 body !
This project was more than the usual  art project, however  i chose to help focus  and BE involved.   It is hard to explain however i will do the best i can . The name for the project was Project Love . Since i was very little , i saw both the light and the dark in everything and  that there was no real separation .The separation  perceived was coming from the thoughts of the mind .



I knew that within each and everyone one has divine potential to create a living work of art  .
 I also understood that there are a lot of people wandering around who feel confused , lost, scared, unaware of the beauty around and within , similar to someone wandering through darkness without their flashlight turned on , or a ship or plane lost at sea or in air without any equipment . I was  there and now i am here reminding you , that we are the flashlight ! All we have to do is turn ourselves on and shine into the dark night . Awareness , choice and courage to move regardless of what we see when we bring the light to the darkness . Let us also remember our friends and family that are here with us on our journey and remember that the light shared is not lost, it only grows and gets brighter until morning when the sun is revealed in the sacred moment of the new day !

Now project of love is a multi- faceted project and is connected with many individuals all across the world at it has gone international lately which is very very exciting , especially in times with so much confusion .  Project love has grown and gone way beyond what i had expected which is awesome since expectations of outcome have never worked  for me anyways .  I by no means take full credit as i was just the one to respond to a call that usually goes unanswered . Its ironic that when i picked up the call i did not realize till much later i called  “myself”.
I took on spearheading the project of  love starting with “ vision of creating a whole healthy world with whole healthy people aware, open , clear , free and thriving in abundance, in harmony with all . What a walk a in the park :)
I have spent the last 9 years continually working to meet with others who share a similar vision and take small steps in each moment with creative imagination , and action to bring more beauty into the world .  Goals > Share vision and take action with resources and individuals within the collective to bring more awareness and beauty into the world .
We will do this by being and providing examples of this whole body and how when working together at whatever level  from the micro to the macro that creates a whole healthy body with whole healthy people .
We at project love have many different areas we are working in , however all goes back to the intention or mission of fully knowing , being and sharing ourselves openly and consciously creating a living masterpiece together . This is what some call the human revolution .